什么叫朋友,你身边的好朋友去世了
什么叫朋友，你身边的好朋友去世了？
你身边的好朋友去世了，你难过吧？一定会很难过。谁说不是亲人，但对朋友的去世，无论是谁都会感觉到很悲伤。
说到朋友，让我们自然会想起张学友那首脍炙人口的歌曲《朋友，别哭》：
朋友别哭，我依然是你心灵的归宿。
要相信自己的路，红尘中有太多茫然痴心的追逐。
你的苦，我也有感触，我一直在你心灵最深处，我陪你不孤独。
人海中难得有几个真正的朋友，这份情请你不要不在乎……
什么是朋友？人海中你遇到几个真正的朋友，这份情让你很在乎呢？
朋友的概念：
就是当你有危难遭窄的时候，他能挺身而出，帮你化解危机，救你于水深火热；当你遭贬，失魂落魄的时候，他能陪你身边；当你火烧当日，他能拿出所有积蓄帮助你度难关；好的朋友，既为你两肋插刀，毫不含糊，又在你犯浑的时候骂你狗血喷头，让你头脑清醒，是非分明；好朋友心胸宽广，意见不一，可以吵吵闹闹，整得面红耳赤，过后还是朋友，不记怨不记仇。我有几个朋友，除了女人，你看中啥拿啥，几乎不分你我。有啥说啥，做的不对就当面修正。
不怕你笑话，有一律师朋友出去办案，被一女当事人看中，要处“朋友”，邀请旅游玩一玩。当这伙计在微信中向我等三个朋友展示图片时，被我们一顿臭骂后，他猛然醒悟，办完案立即滚回来。
朋友不在乎多少，关键在于质量。酒肉宾朋不是友。酒桌上推杯换盏，感情深一口闷，那不是朋友，没准就是些狐朋狗友。他们一会浪费时间，消耗你的精力；二是也可能利用你，为某种目的暗算你。这也是交友中，要特别谨慎注意的。
人这一辈子，就怕交友不慎。交错了朋友，会让你掉进了泥坑；交对了朋友，会助你一臂之力。
浇树要浇根，交友要交心。患难之中见真情，真心帮你的人，不图回报。有如，一哥们遭遇车祸，七窍出血，当时判定就是死人，媳妇都退缩了。然而，好友赶到医院，交上20万押金，人得以转危为安。
结论：朋友不是用嘴说出来的，而是用真心实意换出来的。好朋友没有贵贱之分，无论你从事什么岗位，什么工作，都是友好平等相处，朋友之交坦荡荡，只要尽心尽力问心无愧。@北国鹰飞 【原创作品】
你是怎么看待的？
朋友有很多类，各有各的存在及合理，不必刻意选择，关系皆顺其自然。
1、知心朋友。你成功为你高兴，你失败为你难过，你升官发财人家也不眼红，有风险提醒你除了家人之外的人，这类人不用太多，一两个足矣，也是你的幸运。
2、酒肉朋友。仅限逢场做戏，场面之内，朋友二字会常挂嘴边，“有事钟无艳，无事夏迎春”，关系仅依靠大家彼此可利用的程度。
3、只患难不能共享乐。伪朋友，有问题了找你一起扛，飞黄腾达了眼睛会长在头顶上，就怕你来麻烦他，你们早已不是一类人。
4、网友。 精神垃圾桶，相互一般互不相知底细，但吐槽的都是真事，仅此而已。
女朋友和别的男生说我是朋友？
说明你的女朋友还没有在心里真正的认可你。
很可能是把你当备胎。
如果你们交往的时间还比较短，建议你多跟女朋友约会，增进感情，让女朋友在心里真正的认可你。
如果你们认识时间很长了，以一种备胎转正的方式在一起的，那么你的女朋友可能目前还是把你当作备胎。
如果真的喜欢对方，多努力一下，早日走进女朋友的心里，让她从心里认可你。
如果还是无果，建议早早撤退，如果女生把你当备胎，那么真是太惨不过了，一旦有机会就会踹掉你。
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借给朋友钱到底值得吗？
我觉得分人吧，那种有信誉，对你真心的朋友就值得，而那些小人，就没有必要借钱，因为你借钱给那些人，最后无非是“人财两空。”
3古语说“君子之交淡如水”两个人之间没有利益的往来，就少了那些夹杂在朋友间了纠纷，友谊才能够长存。所以说，一贫一贱交情乃现。
在现今这个浮躁的社会，很多的人都是一边拿着微薄的薪水，一边支撑着超出自己能力的生活。每一个人都在拼命的赚钱养家。谁又说是一定手里就有闲钱往外借呢？
昨天翻微信，看到朋友发的一条朋友圈:现在的社会就是借钱容易还钱难，所以别太善良。对于不该帮的人就不要心软。自己难的时候谁又伸出手帮你。不要因为好听的话就心软。好奇心驱使下，就问了一下。
原来是他一个关系还算可以的朋友，前段时间从他那里拿了一些钱。说好的月末给他还呢。本来他手上就没有什么钱，但是禁不住朋友的软磨硬泡，又加上他朋友说的是月末给他还呢，他就把自己本来准备还房子贷款的钱先拿出来一些给了朋友，让先用着，月末等朋友给他6还了钱在还贷款。结果现在自己要用了，朋友却“失踪”了，发消息也不回，打电话也不接。害的他又四处借钱，用来填补空缺。
其实“借钱”这件事本身并不麻烦，麻烦的是借钱的人各不相同。有些人借钱不还，或者拖很久，债主碍于情面难以启齿催讨，但心中难免不快。有的人向别人借钱成了习惯性的依赖。而更多的人又顾及朋友情面，很难拒绝对方借钱的请求。所以最后就因为这件事情，弄得人财两空，从此朋友是路人。
我也遇到过这种类似的事情，结果就是钱是借了，朋友也丢了，最后弄得双方都不好看。
借钱的人无非就是这种心态
第一种就是到了该还钱的时候，欠钱者觉得把钱就这样给别人，感觉心疼了，已经在心里认为这个钱是我的了，好像是白白的送给别人一样，舍不得。
第二种就是欠钱者认为，债主有钱，不需要这笔钱，或者认为不应该要回这笔钱。理所当然认为债主应该给他钱，这是应该的。
他们这种心理，就是极其自私自利，只看到了自己，却不想别人借钱给他的时候，也是东拼西凑的挤出来这钱。没有考虑到别人对他的帮助，不懂感恩，并且还反怪别人催债紧，小气。
其实，话说了这么多，借钱最大的难处在于感情和关系，甭管是亲情、友情还是同事情，都是这样。而中国人最看重的又是感情和人际关系，所以借钱这个问题让很多人不知如何是好。在我看来，有些感情不能伤，有些“感情”就可以伤，与其因为催债伤了“感情”，不如在拒绝的时候伤。否则，钱借出去要不回来，还要背地里被人数落，你说何苦呢？
毕竟谁的钱都不是不风刮来的。有句话不是说“借钱是情份，不借是本份”嘛。与其弄到后来的人财两空，不如一开始就学会拒绝。
同时，请珍惜那个愿意借钱给你的人，他愿意给你借钱，未必是因为他有多少钱，只他真的很看重你们之间的那份情谊。毕竟钱这个东西，永远是握在自己的手里，最安心。更何况借钱，从来都是一件有风险的事情。那个人愿意把钱借给你，不仅仅说明他人好说话，只是他不想失去你这个人。
人为什么要发朋友圈？
我从“行为心理学”的角度总结了人们发朋友圈的十大原因，为外国朋友也能看懂，特意写成中英对照（中英文大意相同，并非完全直译），请各位细看，说得不对之处，请忽略：
1，刷存在感。通过分享自己的生活、去的地方、吃的东西等吸引眼球。其内在需求是表明自己的存在。在这个人与人的关系越来越疏远的时代，登门造访、打电话，都可能犯冒失之嫌。通过微信刷存在感，让朋友圈中所谓的朋友记得还有自己这个人存在，真的是个好办法。
To obtain the feeling of existence. We can impress others by sharing our routine life, the place where we go, the food we eat, the goods we buy. The key point is to demonstrate our existence by appealing to the eyeballs. We are now in the era when the relations between human beings are becoming more and more unfamiliar and indifferent so that it is regarded disturbing and offensive to call at the house of old friends or even to telephone them. It is not so easy to find a good way to make us hear from each other without disturbing our private life nowadays. Wechat Moments provides us a platform where we can publish our information to the circles of friends. The friends in the circle can choose to read, respond or even ignore our message. Those who send the message would not care whether the receivers read it when emptying the bowels or before falling into to sleep in the midnight, and they would not care the receivers like it or not either. They only know maybe somebody will read it, and maybe somebody will click LIKE button, or somebody will give comments, and that’s OK.
2， 发泄自己的倾诉欲、表现欲、暴露欲。
To meet requirements of pouring out one’s heart, to satisfy the desire to show off, to fulfill the wish of exposure.
Human is the kind of creature who has intense social nature. They have various interactive requirements. The need of revealing one’s innermost feelings is a very important aspect. Those who have strong feeling of speaking out can even release themselves by shouting at cattle, just like some indoors-men abandon themselves to do hand job in front of the picture of Bingbing Fan.
So is the desire to show off for some persons. They might feel very excited since their childhood if they could act something to the audience. Maybe their dream job is to become actors or actresses. They will feel extraordinarily disappointed if they find there are no crowd surrounding them when they are showing something. Unfortunately in their everyday’s life, they are not focus people and don’t have this opportunity of showing off. Luckily, Wechat help them a lot by providing this platform for showing off.
Generally speaking, people tend to protect their privacy and don’t like to reveal their true features. But situation is not always like this. Some people are fond of exposing their private life, their mind, and some parts of their bodies. Similarly, Wechat Moments provides a place for exposing themselves.
3， 记录自己的生活、思想。一方面是为了留待自己以后来看，去追寻。
另一方面是为了总结自己的思想，通过把东西写下来让自己的思路更清晰，总结的更全面。基本上就是日记的作用。那为何不写日记呢？主要是微信朋友圈用起来非常简洁方便；另一方面的原因可能是为了给人看看，看看人家对自己的思想有什么反映和反馈，以便于总结提高，但是往往失望，原因在于别人要么只是点个赞，要么只是随便回复一下原因是在于别人没有那么大的兴趣去研究你的问题。
To keep records of their life and idea. On one hand, they can keep the picture and writing so that they can study and recall them in the future; on the other hand, the behavior itself of writing down their idea can help them organize their thought and then work out more reasonable and comprehensive point of view. In this aspect, they use Wechat as diary software.
But why not use professional diary software directly? Maybe one reason is that the diary software is not so famous and so easy to obtain as Wechat. I think the more important reason is that through Wechat they can share their point of view to others and elicit feedback which may help them modify their idea. However, they will be disappointed eventually and find others seldom give extraordinarily useful feedback as they expected. Why? It is easy to perceive that the others wouldn't have the same interest as them in their personal issues.
4， 兜售自己的观念，给人洗脑。企业老板、职业经理人、培训师、公众人物、老师等经常这么做。
To promote one’s own idea, and try to brainwash others. Company owners, professional managers, trainers, teachers, other public figures, like to do this way. These guys think they are smarter than others, but brainwashing is harder than money laundering.
5， 兜售自己的商品。各种销售人员，推销人员把朋友圈当成自己的叫卖场。某些专业人士兜售自己的专业知识，也属于此类。
To sell one’s own products. Various kinds of salesperson, promoters, tend to regard Friend Circles of Wechat as shopping place of their own company and peddle all the time. Some professionals like to peddle their specialized knowledge here, and so on. These behaviors are very annoying.
6， 兜售自己，有目的地展现自己的形象，当然都是有企图的。比如某人经常转发所谓正能量、心灵鸡汤的微信，试图让别人认为他是个阳光积极的人，实际上他每天在干啥勾当只有天知道。许多政界人士、演艺界人士或各种名人喜欢这么做。
To sell themselves, and to demonstrate their special image, of course with intention. For example, somebody always transmit message purposed to contain so called positive energy or chicken soup for the soul in Moments, in order to let others think they positive and optimistic persons. Actually only God knows what they are doing every day. Many officials, actors/actresses and other famous people act like this.
7， 通过发朋友圈自我激励，自我暗示。甚至诅咒发誓，反正重复万遍也成为真理，达到自欺欺人的效果。比如经常发些要坚持、要有毅力的帖子，成功学的帖子，比尔·盖茨10条忠告什么的。表面上是给人家看的，实际上是为了激励自己。刚学“成功学”的年轻人最喜欢这么做。
To self-motivate and self-suggest. They transmit some message which they think will be their life creed, or guide to action, or key to success. They quote traditional saying, motto of celebrities, such as 10 suggestions from Bill Gates and Ma Yun, repeatedly every day only to regulate and cultivate themselves. The young people who just start to be mind-controlled by so-called success science act like this.
8， 别有用心的特别目的，如丑化某些国家，丑化政党，丑化某些民族，挑起地域纷争，挑起社会动荡，挑起民众对政府的不相信等。
With special political or social purpose. For example, some persons spread materials to demonize some country, to smear some parties, to defame some nationalities, or to provoke territory conflict, to stir up social instability, to cause the public to have no confidence in their government, etc.
9， 用来做追求某人、示爱的手段。
To chase girls, to show love to them.
10,某些特别工作需要或事务性目的。
To publish some personal or business notification on this convenient cost-free platform. For example, we can issue a meeting notice in a corporate inner group of Wechat. And we can publish a notice for missing person there.
